LOOOOL!BTW, your avatar is awesome!
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Want vs Need
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> Would you rather be wanted or needed?
> Maslows Theory
The "Love/Belonging needs"-level of the hierarchy?
In reply to:
After physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third layer of human needs is social. This involves emotionally-based relationships in general, such as friendship, sexual-relationship, or having a family. Humans want to be accepted, and to belong to groups, whether it be clubs, work groups, religious groups, family, gangs, etc. They need to feel loved (sexually and non-sexually) by others, and to be accepted by them. People also have a constant desire to feel needed. In the absence of these elements, people become increasingly susceptible to loneliness, social anxieties and depression. [Wikipedia]
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Of course so that means the thrill of the hunt and wanting something is gone?
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I don't think the point is that you need to be unconditionally needed by everybody, even before they know you. You need to have a social/family network, but you can still pursue people who don't yet know how much they really need you.
Does Britney Speares know how much she needs me? No? Her loss. :wink:
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Wanted is great. "Needed" can often result it something negative...
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I NEED to be WANTED!
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With need comes obligation?
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Needed, it's more powerful. Wants are optional."Want" is earned. "Need" is more of a gun-to-the-head concept, if you're talking about healthy adults. A prisoner needs his jailer, so he doesn't starve to death. Need" implies some type of incapacitation on the part of the needer."Wanted" is more powerful.
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Completely agree with you Steve.
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Would you really want to be needed by a person who's needy enough to need you? It's like wanting all of the 3-day-old bread in the world.You're better off owning a dog.
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if ur needed it means that person feels they can really rely on you it means they care about you a lot but if ur wantedwho knows a want could go away like someones want for the latest model of .....what ever where as a need is always their like we will never stop needing water right !!i must admit though i dont want either it is nice to feel that feeling you get when you are wanted or needed but at the same time its not good for someone to need you and feel that they can survive without you i love to help people but i dont want them to feel like they cant be without me if that makes sense
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Need is not the basis of love. You can hate someone you need (for example, a bad parent, or a jailer). In love, there's an element of choice, and thus, want.
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Needing without wanting is negative.Wanting without needing can be either negative or positiveBoth Wanting and Needing is positiveWhen looking at relationships:But I look at it this way; You can be happy with someone that just wants you... but it's hard to stay with someone that just needs you.If you've been with someone for a long time and you're both deeply in love with each other, your partner may say something to the effect of, "I need you". But what they are really implying is they want you so badly it's hard to imagine life without you or they think without you they would not be able to go on. You're not able to go on without water. You're not able to go on without food. You can go on without him/her, it's just hard to imagine. Do you see where the need and want get mixed up here?
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I was just proving you wrong saying that Needs are more powerful than Wants.I don't really understand what you think you proved. A backhoe is more powerful than a woman who needs me. So what. I'd still rather have a relationship with a woman who wants me than with a backhoe.
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Very nice explination!
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Thank you. I think too much, but it pays off sometimes.