Advice for sex!!!!!!!!!!!!! please!!!!

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ok my bf has told me he wants to have sex and i do too but i'm really afraid to. now we've been together for about 2 weeks but we've known each other for about 2 years soooooo time doesn't bother me. it's just i have questions that i can't really ask any one i know...........

after i have sex do i have to go to the doctors?

i'm afraid of my hymen breaking in front of him, is there a way i can tell if it's broken or not? and could i break it myself?

it's my first time and not his, how DO i have sex?

what am i suppose to do to give him pleasure?

besides getting pregnant what do i have to worry about?

how would i know that he likes it while i'm giving it to him?

what can i do to give him pleasure?

after i have sex do i have to go on birth control?

and after i have sex, it's done, no one have to know and i don't have to see anyone?

if you can answer some of these question i would really appriciate it A LOT!!!! and feel free to bring anything else up, it would be my first time and i jsut want things to go right and know what i'm doing and what i should know.

Let me just say in the beginning of my post that I think you are too young and immature. This is just judging by your posts, at this time you do not sound ready to have sex, just my opinion. I'd suggest waiting, but no one listens anyways.. You shouldn't have sex just because he wants you too. after i have sex do i have to go to the doctors?No you don't have to make a doctor's appointment after sex. However they do recommend eventually by the time your 18 that you start seeing a gynecologist regularly. Some people recommend it when you start becoming sexually active. However no its not required. Unless you didn't use protection and get pregnant, then I can guarantee you'll be visiting the doctor. i'm afraid of my hymen breaking in front of him, is there a way i can tell if it's broken or not? and could i break it myself?It may already be stretched etc, from tampons etc, but it probably won't be 'broken'. Sex will obviously stretch it way more than you're used to, and you may bleed. If you're not ready to handle accidental bleeding, then don't have sex. Sex may also hurt, it's part of life. Your vagina is not used to having something that large inside of it. it's my first time and not his, how DO i have sex?It's not really hard to have sex, it's just something that takes time to be good at. First I would suggest deciding who's going to be on top or bottom. what am i suppose to do to give him pleasure?Kiss him and touch him, tease him before sex, etc. Just do what feels right. Don't just lay there, if you're on the bottom. besides getting pregnant what do i have to worry about?Well pregnancy to me seems like a big concern.... You can worry about the pain, if you're really ready for this decision, and the after effects. how would i know that he likes it while i'm giving it to him?Likes what sex? I'd suggest you start with handjobs/blowjobs before jumping right into sex. But he might make noise, or just look like he's enjoying it, he will have an orgasm if it feels nice and he's enjoying it. what can i do to give him pleasure?Well being inside of you, should bring him some pleasure lol. You could try kissing, touching, etc. Talking dirty to him during sex (although this is your first time, chances are it won't feel great and it will be awkward. Might not be the time for talking dirty.)after i have sex do i have to go on birth control?You need to be on birthcontrol now. Sorry to burst your bubble. You should not risk pregnancy at the age of 15. You're no where near ready to have a child. and after i have sex, it's done, no one have to know and i don't have to see anyone?I don't really know what you mean. No one but you and your boyfriend will know unless you tell people, or you get pregnant. But you'll kinda have to see your boyfriend after sex. I mean he'll probably be there, don't ya think?

I really really worry that you are prepared to jump in when you so far know so little about it (and so early in the relationship). But here are some answers to your questions:

after i have sex do i have to go to the doctors?

No, not unless you are pregnant or have picked up a sexually transmitted disease. However, women, especially if sexually active, should get a regular Pap smear done to guard against cervical cancer.

i'm afraid of my hymen breaking in front of him, is there a way i can tell if it's broken or not? and could i break it myself?

If you use tampons your hymen has probably already broken. If it is intact, it will be broken by his penis. There will be some blood. A doctor can tell you if the hymen is there; or you can check yourself with a mirror.

it's my first time and not his, how DO i have sex?

There should be a considerable amount of making out, feeling, etc first, and you need to be in the mood and ready, or you won't be lubricated enough. This doesn't matter so much to guys, who are ready most of the time, so you need to be prepared to be assertive. Don't assume he is a great lover. Make sure he uses a condom. If he is not prepared to use one, there should be no sex.

There are a lot of different positions, but missionary is a good start: the girl lies on her back with legs apart, the guy lies on top, supporting his weight on his elbows so he doesn't squeeze the life out of her, his legs between hers. You can guide his penis in the right hole, since many guys have trouble finding it.

what am i suppose to do to give him pleasure?

He'll move in and out as gives him pleasure, and you are supposed to enjoy it.

besides getting pregnant what do i have to worry about?

Sexually Transimitted Diseases for a start. Some of them are very common. A condom is essential to provide some protection; however it gives only partial protection against herpes and genital warts.

You should also be careful of your reputation. Is the guy going to brag to his mates?

how would i know that he likes it while i'm giving it to him?

He will, don't worry.

what can i do to give him pleasure?

You asked that before.

after i have sex do i have to go on birth control?

Yikes! Birth control (contraception) is something you arrange BEFORE sex. Condoms (which should always be used to provide some protection against STDs) are not bad for birth control provided they don't break or come off (it's important that he pull out soon after ejaculation, before he starts going soft). The condom can easily break or come off if used by the inexperienced, so it's a very good idea if you are on oral contraceptives as well. These need a doctor's prescription.

You may have been thinking of the "morning-after pill", which is to be taken after sex. It needs to be taken within 48 hours. It has strong side-effects, and is only suitable for emergencies (such as if a condom breaks), not for regular contraception.

and after i have sex, it's done, no one have to know and i don't have to see anyone?

Yes, if you are not pregnant, didn't catch an STD, no-one heard you and your bf didn't tell everyone.

If you dont know HOW to have sex than your not ready to be having sex, or to have the answers to teh rest of the questions.Gorw up some, the answers to the questions dont realy matter til your old enough or mentally aware enough to understand them anyways.

Do not have sex until you have grown up enough to handle the Emotions, they will be vary large and you need to deal with them. So don't jump into sex until you're older and are prepared to deal on an adult level

Do not have sex until you have grown up enough to handle the Emotions, they will be vary large and you need to deal with them. So don't jump into sex until you're older and are prepared to deal on an adult level

Your BF and you are thinking with your sexual organs. Yea you've known him for 2 years, but you've only been dating a week?I don't know how many others here have the balls to admit it; but it seems that a great number of people who have had sex at your age frankly regret it; especially in your case where the relationship hasn't even started or is all that stable.

Quote:to handle the Emotions, they will be vary large and you need to deal with them.Really? I never had any emotions to deal with...

Before I answer your questions, there is one important question I would like to ask you. You say you've known your boyfriend for about 2 years, dating for 2 weeks, and time doesn't bother you. So, my question is, what's the rush?What you need is time, not to be having sex. You need more time for your relationship to grow, you need more time for you to be more mature, and you need more time to learn what sex really is. You're only 15, so you have nothing but all the time in the world. Just be a teenager now and learn to grow. Don't try to "grow up" so fast by having sex. I can almost guarantee that you will regret it later.after i have sex do i have to go to the doctors?Like everyone said, if you caught a STD or got pregnant, then yes. But other than that, no. BUT it IS recommended that if a girl/woman either turns 18 or starts being sexually active, they need to see a gynecologist. You'll need to get a Pap test and be put on a method of birth control.i'm afraid of my hymen breaking in front of him, is there a way i can tell if it's broken or not? and could i break it myself?If you've used a tampon or have done a lot of physical activity, chances are it might be broken/streched already. If not, prepare yourself for minor bleeding, if he does indeed break it. Sorry, but if you're afraid of that then don't have sex. Plus, if you bring that worry into you head when you're about to have sex, him penetrating you is going to hurt more because you'll be too tense.it's my first time and not his, how DO i have sex?Your boyfriend: Be sure that he takes it SLOW with you. He needs to know that so he can be gentle with you or else sex is going to hurt much more. Most importantly, he must wear a condom. No exceptions!You: You need to be relaxed as possible. Girls lubricate a little so you may want to buy lube when you become dry. The best position to start would be missionary (him on top) but you need to be vocal if you feel pain or feel uncomfortable.what am i suppose to do to give him pleasure?Do whatever you feel. Kiss, touch, lick...it's all up to you. But he's the only one who knows what feels great for him, so again, be vocal.besides getting pregnant what do i have to worry about?This is the one I've been waiting for. Believe it or not, there are a lot of things that can happen. But the thing is, you can't really worry about it too much or ignore it because this is the reality of sex.You can get an STD/STI. This is why condoms are important because they help reduce the risk.Emotional roller coster. That's the best way I can describe it. You may feel happy, you may feel dirty, you may feel used, you may feel sad. It's all up to you and how you feel about your relationship. Are you prepared for that?Sexual activty is a health responsibility. Once you start, you need to keep yourself healthy. That is why it's very important for you to see a gynecologist, get on a birth contol method, and stick to it. Anything can happen down there.Sex changes the relationship, for better or for worse. Have you guys talked about the possible outcomes? Is sex going to be something special you both can share or is it just something you do because your partner wants it? Like Ineligible said, your boyfriend may use sex as a braging right to his friends and that kind of gossip spreads like a wildfire at a school.how would i know that he likes it while i'm giving it to him?You're going to know, trust me.what can i do to give him pleasure?Answered that already.after i have sex do i have to go on birth control?No, BEFORE you have sex! Besides surgery and continuous abstinence, there is no foolproof method of preventing you from getting pregnant. Emergency contraception is just that, for emergencies only.and after i have sex, it's done, no one have to know and i don't have to see anyone?No one will know about it unless you or your boyfriend say anything to anyone or you get caught. Again, the only person you should see is a gynecologist.I'm sorry but if you had to ask all those questions AND you're feeling afraid about sex, you are simply not ready at all. If your boyfriend is pushing you into sex, then leave him. Being pressured into sex is NOT a wonderful way to loose your virginity. He needs to know and respect your feelings and if not, move on.

I'd say wait til you are older. Virtual_star is right no doubt about that!

ok well yea i was just asking some questions to be sure, my god ppl you don't have to be such dicks about it.last friday we did have sex and no i didn't regret it and everythings fine. he accualy treats me better then before and yes i am mature enough to handle this. i talk to him about these things i was just looking for some insight.

To be honest, of course he will treat you better now; because you're now a source for sexual pleasure...you're a valuable commodity to a young male!

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ok well yea i was just asking some questions to be sure, my god ppl you don't have to be such dicks about it.

in my opinion, they were not being dicks. they were telling you how they felt. if you ask as many questions as you have, then you need to know a LOT about sex. and yes he is going to treat you better than before, now that he screwed you, until he finds another person to be "better than before" to. dont ask questions if you dont want real answers.