Breaking Up

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I have had my current girlfriend since September 2006. We fight constantly, once every 1 or 2 days, no exaggeration. Thats really the only reason, I also just simply don't want to be with her. We were fighting tonight, I said "were over" Then she calls me balling her eyes out, and I just told her I was pissed off & I wasn't thinking. I said that because its really hard when she phones back crying. Then after she was done crying she said "The only reason you still want to be with me is because I was crying, if I wasn't crying you would still have broke up with me" .. and thats true. I didn't admit it though. I just don't want to be with her anymore, she wants to be with me, I try to break up, she crys, I can't do it. I need some advice.

1. Make an active effort to work out why your fighting, and try to fix it. The fact that her crying has an effect on you shows you still care about her.

or

2. Break up. Stop wasting your time and her's. There's no easy way to do it.

Her previous boyfriends were abusive, the past 2. They would hit her and choke her. I guess that makes her think I'm the best person ever since I don't do that stuff, and she doesn't want to break up with me.

She won't.

Yeah. I guess next time I break up with her I am going to have to not let her crying bother me.

Dude.. I had a girlfriend who was fuuucked in the head. She started getting better and now we don't even talk anymore.The simple fact is your probably a crutch at this point in her life.If you want to support her then god speed and I respect you for it. I probably would because I am that weak emotionally as to fall for people who are messed up and try to help them.However, if you don't then you have to well like helms said.. flat out tell her.(sugar coating works too) You are being used as a crutch subconciously and she needs to work out her own issues if she is ever going to have a real relationship.

Thats not the only thing either.She got kicked out of school in grade 9 and never went back.She has never had a job in her life.Lives with her parents; shes turning 20 this year.

Just got a text from her:

i dont fucking care anymore do whatever talk to whoever I DONT FUCKING CARE ANYMORE

Honestly, I'm kinda happy.

RUUUUUUUNNNN

Erm Yeah..As a man I somewhat believe in gender roles. Its a guys job to look out for a girl and typically the man is the bread winner.However, I also believe that if worse comes to worse a woman should be able to step up to the plate and take care of the man Because lets face it.. accidents happen.If she dropped out of school and has no desire to return. No desire to further her education in life then odds are you can't count on her if something happens to you. You can't count on her for emotional support (seeing as she is apparently unstable). You can't count on her in any real way..

She broke up with ME. Reason: Unknown. Oh well, I was going to anyways. Just makes it easier on me knowing that she did.

Shes putting all these sad quotes and stuff in her aim away message and profile... they make me want to say sorry to her.

Oh yeah... and she sent me a picture.http://img167.imageshack.us/img167/3432/0804071136js7.jpgYes.. that is her.

Do you have any ideas what I can tell her? I'm talking to her right now and I basically told her everything in this thread. But she just says "if you cared about me you wouldn't do this" What can I say??

She smokes tobacco, marijuana, drinks, and has done cocaine before.

Alright.. have fun.

Helms has you on the right path, don't get sucked back into her problems. A boyfriend/girlfriend should always be supportive, but you can't cure this girl. She is royally fucked in the head and altho it does sound selfish, you have to think about yourself. You deserve to be with someone slightly less crazy.

Thanks everyone.. would still appreciate more posts still.

The girl needs help, but you're not the one who can do it, a physiologist is probably the one she really needs right now. It seems to me like she's playing mind games with you, and she's probably only posting things like that to make you feel guilty (for things that aren't your fault) enough to take her back. She needs to get her emotional baggage sorted out before she can have a healthy relationship with anyone... I think you need to cut ties with her and think of yourself a little more.

God I'm so fucking stupid. I fell for her sweet talk/bullshit and I'm back with her again.

You fool, you fool, you big big fool! Kindness is a good quality, but she is manipulating your kindness. Get out now while you still can!