First time sex

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Hi

I met a girl online who lives very local to me. I intially started speaking to her on a friday afternoon (whilst in very busy in work) and we were chatting on a dating chat facility. Even tho i had only started speaking to her that morning she asked me if i wanted to go to her house, of which i did (quite late in the evening). Typically however after a couple of hours chatting we started to have sex. In which she allowed me to do the oral thing with her. I will leave out the details as thats not the point of my post. After a while of giving her oral sex she put my cock in her pussy and i felt a quite uncomfortable about putting it in there. This was my mind working overtime but neither i nor she had condoms. So i said to her that i would only put it in there if i had a condom on. To which she replied "dont worry I cant get pregnant". I personnly however did not really want to take any risk to myself or to her. As i menitoed above between the time i was chatting her online and the time i met her was just a few hours, I also should point out that alot of shops and chemists were already closed so getting any condoms was just about out of the question. She then did get off my cock a bit rapid and i felt almost that I had offended her. But i genuinelyy hand on heart could not take that degree of risk. On the other hand however she did allow me to confinue to perfom oral sex etc on her which I hope again hand on heart, may have made up for anything.

My question is really did i do the right thing in saying "wait a moment lets think about this a moment".

This leads me onto a second question also. So here goes. Whilst we were having sex she allowed me to put my finger into her anus. Of course I asked permission first to which she said yes to which i obliged and she did seem to enjoy it. As this was our first meeting I was thinking about maybe asking her if she wanted anal sex instead. But I am not sure if asking for that on a first date would be wise.

This leads me onto my second question. If a girl is willing to have a finger inserted into her anus, would she be willing to have a cock in there?

If anyone has any advice i would be most greatful.

Stealth

Question 1:
Yes, of course it was the right thing to take your health and your future into consideration and to choose that over one night of sex. There are many other things that you could have done with each other.

On a side note, I don't know if she was telling the truth or not about not being able to get pregnant, but you might want to inform the girl that condoms do not just protect you from unwanted pregnancy. They prevent the transmission of Sexually Transmitted Infections that some people may not even know that they have.

Question 2:
The anus can be quite stimulating when played with during sex, but putting a penis in there is a bit different. If you want to know if she's into it, you'll have to ask her. We can't tell you for her.

Hang on, what you're saying is you met a girl online and in the same day you fucked her?Man, I gotta try this, lol.

Thank you bobalicious for the quick reply. It seems that my thinking was pretty clear then. With regards to the anal thing yes thats exaclty the answer i was expecting really. I was just looking for the reassurance bit from some one.Thanks again!!!Stealth

Yeah about 5 hours from chatting to meeting. Not a world record but pretty quick!!!

That's awesome man, kinda cool that you took a moment to think about precaution. When I got with my ex-girlfriend she wanted to fuck but we had no condoms so I told her no at the time but a few days later we fucked without protection anyway.

Yeah I think you need to keep a "weather eye open". Not sure if thats the correct term to use but its close i think.Stealth

Ummm...No offense man but, that was a pretty bad move IMHO..If she meets you and is willing to go at it within 5 hours..aren't you worried you might catch something?

You need to read my post more carefully.I was in work whilst chatting online with her. There was no way that i could leave my office alone with the phone ringing off its hook. I did not go down to her house until very late evening as she put her kids to bed before hand so that was 9pm before i got to her place. So all the local shops were closed. Apart from the big supermarkets which were to far away for that time of the evening. I was not expecting to meet her that evening so it was very short notice indeed. Stealth

I think you definitely did the right thing. And the point about STDs is well taken. You can't be sure you're the only guy she's done that with.

You know, you could still catch something just from oral sex.

i met my last ex online, and we talked about a week before we met up and he was local, too. then this other dude started talking to me, and he lives 15 minutes away...the same night we really started talking, he was all like so where can i come get you, we should hang out, saying that over and over when i said no because i didn't know much about him. i never met that dude even though he's 15 minutes away. that kinda creeped me out when he kept on asking to meet the same night even after i said no a million times, lol.my ex could have done that, too, but glad he didn't. gotta talk to the person a little bit first before meetin', heh.

Maybe you have seen him, just walked passed him as you were going around the neighborhood and just didn't realize it was him

lol yeah, that's what i was thinking, too, when i met my ex. we both worked at the same campus, he was just a building over...he only happen to find me online (hot or not lmao) instead of we randomly running into each other. as for the other crazy dude, probably seen him at bars or somethin' but his face didn't look familiar when i saw it though, =p

dude , my first time. i didnt use a condom.thats why i found this site.the chick told she was preg. and had taken tests and everything.had my mind fucked over.good job in what u did i guess

Sorry, but I've got to ask the same question that NNY asked here... if she was willing to meet / sleep with you on the same day... are you seriously not worried about that?? And the fact that if she is that easy, how do you know you haven't caught something off her???! That would really bother me!!

It should also worry the OP about the fact SHE HAS A KID (meaning, that alone proves she is fertile, and indeed is more-so than a woman who has not been previously impregnated)

that alone proves she is fertile, and indeed is more-so than a woman who has not been previously impregnated That is such a stretch in logic. I don't know where you got that idea.

Actually the condom companies (I never claimed to be a doctor) which gives you a handy little chart with every birth control product they sell and what products (by percentage) fail the most (Or methods, such as withdrawl)

Yeah I still don't know where you're going with this. You claimed that a woman, who already has a child, is probably more fertile that one who has not. That assumption is just plain wrong.