I hate my mom

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thanks hon cuddleI respect my kids and do what i can to the very best of my ability for them and always have done, but they have to respect me too, and of course i know whats best for them so they should do as they are told LOL

"I would talk to them like human beings and like the adults they think they are."As an adult, I'd talk to them as the teens they really are regardless of what they think they are. Thinking they're more than what they are is something they need to learn to deal with...the sooner the better. That doesn't necessarily mean disrespecting them...they'll get the respect they deserve. If their actions don't warrant any respect, they won't get it from me.

you and I are the smae age, almsot exactly :P we grew up in a differet era.Thor I dont know his age, but being past military it doesnt matter, he learned the respect and punishment vs rewards there if he hadnt had them instilled already.Its a problem that started a generation or two ago I think with younger more free spirited parents having children and thining everything thier parents did was wrong.My parents by contrast are of an even older generation, and i was raised with thier sense of value and respect, plus the fact Im 35. My dad will be 71 in August, my mother 64 in September.They grew up in ffthe lean times and the times when you best respect your elders or you got hauled to that wood shed for a whoopin. They instilled alot of that same sense in me.People can call me a shitty parent if they like, or an asshole or what ever, but inteh end, I know my kids wont be a drag to those around them, they are happy and seem well adjusted and intelligent. If raisig them like that makes me a bad parent, then Ill be proud to call myself a piss poor example to lead by in parenting skills.

hmmm,angel would you ever say to one of your sons "i cant believe your my son"?

and as for teenager talk i guess it would depend on theyre acting,for the most part in public or a store or something i do what i need to then get bored and walk around till my moms done,

In reply to: What is the right way to talk to teens? There is no basic text on how to speak to a teen, or a child period. Every child is different and will need a different way to speaking to. Some need more guidance, as some are more independent. Some will need you to be stricter as others won't. It's something you have to gauge with each individual person. In reply to: But, I'm not going to scold them and disrespect them just because their age and I feel like I have some superiority over them. I would talk to them like human beings and like the adults they think they are. I have a small issue with this because if someone is doing some out of lines that needs you to say something to them, why speak to them like an adult they Think They Are ? If they were truly acting like an adult, nothing would need to be said to them, period. I honestly think that's some of the issues with some of the teenagers and the lack of respect they have for people and other people’s property. When I was younger and I did something wrong I was told in a stern manor, whether it was a family member or a stranger. But now people just ignore it and by just ignoring it, it gives the child a lack of structure and knowing what’s right or wrong.

sexpot - All this over wanking! I remember...wait...nm

On that point im with you, she did over react, taking down his door and the lecture about his not being her son and all that bullshit.But,the whole I hate my mom and poor pitiful me how can I jerk off with no computer and a direct link to porn in my bedroom, I hate my mom, I wish my dad would beat her up blah blah fucking blah..Its that attitude that made me call him a rotten little shit that needs a spanking.his mother went off the deep end, over what is basically pretty normal and natural, the youth are curious and they like ot look at prn and explore thier own ideas thru it.and of course thye discovered they have sexual organs and they love to stimulate em.not a thing wrong in all that.the mother does havea r ight to say there is no porn inher house. The Op does have a basic right ot touch his pee pee in private.I wot argue against any of that, its his whole apathy that I find so distasteful.the post wasnt created asking for help like, this is what happened, what do you think I can do to regain her trust and smooth out the relationship between me and my mom, it was a bitch fest about how rotten his mother is for caring about his well being even if her ideas are a bit misguided from my own.it was nothing more then The world owes me so fuck you.it was pure apathy to what is right and wrong and a simple disclaimer of love and respect for his mother because he doesnt agree with her.that is why i took such exception to his statement of independance.

Hell no. The OP's mother totally overreacted in what she did, in my mind she could have tackled the problem SO much better, any parent who tries to kid themselves that their teens are not masterbating, or having sexual thoughts and/or feelings is totally misguided, and to make it something punishable is totally wrong.If that had been me and my son, i would have sat him down and tried to tell him how i felt and listened to him too. i guess i would have been shocked if i caught my sons looking at beastiality etc, but then its natural to be curious about everything. I don't exactly know how i would have reacted, but i do know that taking the door off the hinges is a major over-reaction.As for treating teens with respect, i deal with a lot of teenagers and i treat them like they treat me, i hate the - well they are only kids - attitude that seems to be an excuse for them to act like little shits (some not all i might add before someone flames me), in life you get back what you give out, respect is a too way street - saying that i think parents who pay for thier kids, bring them up, feed, cloth, provide extras like the internet, x box etc etc the list goes on, and put up with the shitty moods deserve respect from their kids for doing just that.

ya if figured as much and sorry your just about the only mother i know of on the board except for hotpants and i think he did say it was because of a virus that the bestiality got on there but oh well,that was the major bit i got out of that,i know for a fact my mother would never say anything like that without apoligizing like a house of fire, so id had to question her if she didnt say pea turkey about feeling bad for basically calling her son the devil or something, and yeah i use to look at porn,i stopped for the most part because it was boring and most of the time you go to one site and 15 others pop up and god is that annoying,so now i stick to my trusty imagination and it works damn well i might add

Well I jsut wanted to make sure that while imay be busting his chops over his actions, I dont condone his mothers actions either. your post seemed a good place to stick it in to make certain everyon understood, Im not taking sides, she fucked up too in my eyes, but she isnt the one here bitching about it and teing anyone in the world who cares to read it that she hates her son because hes into porn.

In reply to: And if you were truly an adult, you would handle the situation like an adult and not stoop down to their level. If you go down to their level, then it would make you look stupid. All you have to do is just tell them that they are being ridiculous and leave all the antics out of it. If you handle the situation maturely, then they'll show you the respect you deserve. I never said stoop to their level. You can take control of a situation without stooping to an immature level. You can remain mature, tell them they are doing wrong and how to act in the particular setting and leave it as that. Just telling them “Oh that’s ridiculous” does absolutely nothing to solve the situation. In reply to: Ø I agree, but I don't think it's just teenagers by themselves. Adults do this as well. And who do you think teenagers and children are learning from? Adults. If we really care about structure about kids, then we as adults need to take action. But, in the process, we need to remember that we are adults and we should talk to teens in a manner of authority and not yell at them and call them names because it won't solve the situation. Of course there are adults that act just as stupid as teenagers, they simply just never grew up or never learned maturity. And I don’t blame all of how some teenagers act on their parents, I blame quite a bit on what they watch on TV. Granted it’s the parent’s fault for letting them watch it, so I suppose you could say it’s still the parent’s fault.I also agree that a child doesn’t need to be yelled at or called a name, which does nothing constructive. As I said before we need more pro-active parents who actually take interest in their children and become part of their lives. The more involved the parent is in the child’s life the better that child will turn out.

In reply to: If i tell her that i get blue ball if i dont jerk it for more than a week she will say its cuz i like porn to much. Which i dont, she says im un godly and im going to go to hell if i keep on watching it.My mom went on and on about how she cant bleve i would watch such filth and how she cant bleve im her son and she is disapointed in me . She said she would not think im a million years i would watch porn . I don't know why some of you are surprised by her actions. Based on what he wrote, this woman seems to be a pretty religeous woman (perhaps prudish?), who perhaps had never seen some of the stuff she saw on his computer. She was shocked and everything she discovered was against her values. She overreacted.. and so did he. I would imagine that things will settle down after a while.

well ya but Eddie the kids may watch it but it is still up to their parents to teach them how to interpret it,parents need to teach kids right from wrong,fantasy from reality, how to act and how not to act,of course that doesnt always work if the parents dont know themselves but still its not up to the networks

I agree with ya. That's why I said : In reply to: we need more pro-active parents who actually take interest in their children and become part of their lives. The more involved the parent is in the child’s life the better that child will turn out.

well shit lol i just thought you meant we should burn the network heads well maybe something not QUITE so extreme but

LOl... hmm... nm

I think Ageism is a issue in the Nations, mostly in BC and Quebec. Probaly not as big as Racism and Sexism though. You can't give opinons to newspapers here if your under 19! I have all my rights, so a little paper says, but it doesn't feel like it! When i walk into a mall with a group of friends the cameras directly point right at us! It is easy to tell who is a good or who will be a good parent, just by reading peoples posts. I wont mention any, yet :grin:

Just because you are older than me, doesn't mean i automatically have to respect you. I do respect you. But you too have to try and earn my respect.

well if you put me down in the bad parent column purple you can kiss my stripey ass runs away

Really? I'll just put you there then :grin: Now bend over :wink:

Oh-ho...Purple with the smooth move...what's our angel gonna do???