I love her

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I would do anything for her, i would take a bullet for her. I just cant tell her... her name is Summer, and well... we were friends for a long time, but i think its time to step my game up, but its hard with her, i had such a hard time admitting i like her. But I'm so lost, we have moments where we look into eachothers eyes with such a passion... such.... wow... It's hard to explain. But I'm afraid if i ask her out, yes or no, it could ruin our relationship as friends, but i need to know... I need to try. But i just cant. She is so amazing. i know this is confusing, i just registered, and i have checked this forum out many many many times before, and i just decided to register, i was going to tell my whole story, but decided none of you nice people would want to read a novel. If anyone can help me, I will love you forever.

Welcome to A2A, withmyheart. I wouldn't mind reading a novel from you, you speak from the heart, and it's a romantic heart. You could write down on a card what you wrote here, and give it to her when you tell her you like her.Should you risk the friendship? I think this is a time when you have to risk what you have to have something better. To stop and go no further to play it safe would be something you would always regret. In our lives we regret much more often the things we didn't do than the things we did. If it doesn't work out, if you lose a friend, it's sad; but not as bad as losing a love.How will she react? I don't know. I have a feeling there is a difficulty, an unconventionality - am I right?

Wow... You are so right. That was really enlightening. I will have to try that. I'm going to see her tomorrow, but I am trying to work up the courage to just spill how i feel. My friend dialed her # and gave mee the phone, and had her dialed, but I hung up, because I am really nervous, this girl seems so wrong, but right at the same time. I want to be with her so badly. But I'm generally a very shy person, I didn't notice I was until my friend Chris brought it up to me, and showed me I was.

I'm generally a really emotional guy, I cant help it, this girl has turned my life in so many different directions, not in a bad way. After going to the movies with her yesterday, I stayed the night at my friend Chris's house. And I was up for hours thinking about her.

Friendship is one of the most powerful relationships that you form with a person , i am currently dating (i add stars as it's a little complexed) my friend which i have know for close on 12 years( i have known him since nursery school) .... I love him a lot but initially i was incredibly concerned for the consequences , in particular 'What would happen if we split up ... What if we aren't freind's anymore?' Losing him as a friend would be one of the things that really would distress me for want of a better word due to all the times he is there for me and what we have been through together. I remember the first time my friend told me he loved me , i think i was a little lost for words , and yet him keeping a secret from me for a long time was more a priority as selfish as that sounds.I don't really know what to say , however i can say currently i feel so happy with him so yes i hope what i have said helps xxTor

It really did help, I'm working up the courage to ask her when I see her tomorrow. Thanks for sharing your story. I respect that very mucho. :]

Your welcome , i hope things go well for you. Although be aware her reaction may not be the one you are looking for ? How long have you known her,

oh wow... for 4 years I've been going to school with her ,but we always were kinda weird. my best friend at the time vinny hated her, so i started off on the wrong foot, but i knew her alot last year, and we started talking, but then when school started up this year she told my friend chris to have me come over and see her some time, so i did, and then that first day, we clicked. And after like 3 times of going with chris, she started to have me come alone, and then her and I became so close, we have such good times together. and she risks stuff, like today she could have gotten in so much trouble, she snuck me in her house without her parents being aware. but she was flirty, and playing around. but any who, I'd say like 4-6 months we have been friends, although we knew each other for about 4 years. :]

gosh, she is so cute though, and that's another thing, shes that girl that can pretty much have any guy she wants. she is so beautiful!

The amount of time you have known someone may effect there reaction although time can be unimportant at stages when a connection is made ...I kind of agree with ineligible i shall explain.... but losing this guy as a friend to me at this moment would hurt a lot more than losing a love as the love i share with him as a friend is truelly unwordable however i really don't want to be a " well but i wonder what if ..." kind of person so in that sense i agree with himunconventionality ?? explain could you ?

I want to go for it, I'm just scared. Gosh I'm in some predicament.

I'm just going to jump in here and strongly encourage you to ask her out. As Ineligible said, the regrets we have in life are for the chances we didn't take, not for failures from the chances taken. You might also think of it this way, any chance you see for happiness reach for it, do your best to grab it. For what is the alternative... comfortable longing and wondering. There are to many insufferable conditions in life and happiness is all to rare and so becomes fleeting in the superficialities where most people try in vain to find it. Never let fear stay your feet or bind your tongue, and in so doing make you lose the opportunity to grab the brass ring and have a real chance at the rather random, fortuitous, recherche outcome of a lasting happiness. Opportunities can be far to scant to let even one pass. I for one have never understood the social taboo of asking or going out with a friend. I think it far more advantageous to look for a lover in a friend than the other way around. People tend to forget, I think as disheartening as it may be, friendships, despite how bright they may be burning, tend to fade with time as the many paths in life lead people in different directions. I believe that the sacrosanctness with which people hold friendship has caused a good many people to overlook a partner in which they could otherwise find happiness and fulfilment.One thing to remember, should she not be interested in you or should she ascribe to the not dating friends rule, the important thing to do is get past the awkwardness as quickly as possible. If she says no, show a little disappointment but then get on with the friendship. Keep in mind the longer any awkwardness lasts the less likely the friendship is to survive. Don't ignore the fact that you asked her out, make it something of trivial jest but don't approach the level of berating. Throw in a couple of lite teasing implications of "you don't know what your missing" or "you missed the boat, hunny" but let it go and get back to what you have.

ur situation is very familyar to me....me and my bf were good friend for over like 2 yrs b4 we started dateing....how we handeled it was we admitted that we liked eachother.....descused our worrys about loosing the frendship if things didnt work out....and desided that it was worth the risk and that we could still try to be friends if things didnt work out....and am i glad that we desided to take the risk....over a year later and we r still going strong...my advise is to talk to her...honestly tell her how you feel :)....good luck to the both of you

friendship? 3 words, quoted from my good friend Jamie Foxx.fuckthatshityou can always make more friends. the love of your life only comes once.

hey man i have other good friends, like Jake Gyllenhaal and Drew Barrymore...i call them my TV friends. I talk to them on my TV. How cool is that??

Are they all in your head?

dude just don't hesitate ..... hesitation is like masturbation, cause in the end you're just screwing yourself and don't tell her with words, just make a move on her and take it from there. but i must warn you the odds are not in your favor cause girls have 2 ladders in their brain, a friendship one and a dating one. while us guys only have one ladder.here's a good way to "predict" which one you are on. think to yourself, what do you do with her? do you talk to her alot or do you flirt with her or touch her etc... think of what girls do with their female friends: they talk right? they bitch about stuff we don't really understand. and her "friends" just try and solve her problem and listen to her. if that sounds like what your doing, its not a good thing. you need to be masculine and ACT from your gut and instinct rather than your brain.... it's this quality that attracts woman. the main problem these days are the mothers that teach their sons COMPLETLY wrong things about how to get women. if you want more advice on these things go here :sosuave.com

I agree, I get to go see her tomorrow, I'm going for it.

Good luck!

Thanks Ineligible, and all else who gave me advice!