How do you get over someone ?

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I had this guy I liked for a while, me and him became pretty close friends. After a while we got pretty close, we talked about all sort of things (his problems, my problems, our likings etc) anyway, I asked him out and he rejected me. Thing is this has been quite a while ago and I just can't seem to get over him, everytime I see him I'm like "oehh How do you get over someone ? ._.

you find someone else. and next time let him make the first move- girls shouldnt make the first move. it might sound ideal to some guys, i for one dont like it. i like pursuit. girls asking guys makes the girl seem desperate.

I'm not a girl, ;D

edit: anyway the whole point was that I just can't easily seem to find someone else, it's been quite a few months ago since I've asked him out, he has a girlfriend now and I see him on a daily basis, yet I still absolutely adore him :p. It might sound pretty desperate but oh well. I've liked other guys since I've asked him out but I just keep on going back to drewling over him.

I've been dealing with the same thing for 3 1/2 years now. I made this post about this same thing a long while back. The responders just told me to give it time and that I'll find someone else some day. Good luck.

Quote: girls asking guys makes the girl seem desperate. i dont think so!!! my boyfriend asked me out and i said no, then a few weeks later i realized i couldnt stop thinking about him so i asked him out. i dont think i was desperate

yeah, but he asked you out first, right?

and im sorry thepouncer, i kinda assumed you where a girl. in any case, getting over someone isnt easy- but the thing is that just because he said no once doesnt mean he wont ever. dont be a stalker, but dont let him forget how much you like him, and one day he might come around- if not, well, find someone else i guess.

yeah he did ask me out first, but i still wouldnt think the girl is desperate if she asks him out. in my opinion its just showing that shes assertive which is a pretty kick ass trait. well i think so anyways.

fair enough, thats your opinion. i just prefer asking to being asked- i dont like it when things are too easy.

Quote:i dont like it when things are too easy.This from the guy who used to post a new thread every few days complaining?

yeah im weird like that.

now bob be good! dont make me spank you!!!

nah hes right, i do complain a lot on this board =/ guess i kind of use it like an outlet. Im sorry Bob, ill try to not post as much.

Oh no, what I meant was that when you first came here you did it a lot, there was some pointless whining and I'll be honest, it was annoying. But a while ago you seemed to get a massive boost in your confidence and I think its done you a lot of good. You've become more aggressive and sure of yourself, its done you good.I have no problem with you posting your problems here, and its great to see you dealing with things a lot better than you used to.

Getting over someone takes time. It sucks, but you just have to gradually let the feelings that you have go with the knowledge that they aren't reciprocal.Trust me, I know from personal experience that it is easier said than done, but it usually needs to be done and will take some time and possibly some pain I hope things work out for you

I hope everyone feels free to use the board as an outlet to seek advice on things that are upsetting them.

I think, the best way to get over someone is to just stop seeing them. If you absolutely have to see him then you will probably never get over him until you find somebody else.

Isnt the point of this board to be an outlet?
to ask teh questions you have noone to ask? to gatehr an education inmatters your not finding answers to anyplace else?
Bitch away, ask away, everyone always has teh right to not read or respond to it.

As to asking girls out or them asking me ?
It never bothered me when they asked me out. I rather liked them taking some charge and being the one that makes thr first step.
Pass those up and you may well miss out on something good.
It doesnt make them desperate, it makes them coourageous, they took that first step thats so hard for anyone to take.
That takes some guts, especially when its in the nontraditional role of a woman asking a man.
iv always said to go after what you want no matter how hard it is.
That applies to women as much as to men.

as to teh OP, Iv said ti a million times, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new.

I've always had troubles getting over people i like. I guess it might be because i'm wanting to have a reliable boyfriend that is always there for me. haha.

goodness I feel your pain! that's why I have this bad habit of giving people a hard time when they want to get "closer" to me and crap like that. I don't want people messing around in my life if they're going to end up causing me drama. I've had to get over alot of people for many reasons. Family, bad friends, and boyfriend..(s) lol. It's definately hard and takes a while but once it's done and over with you feel better. In my own way and how I handle the situation, I look at the positives, how not dealing with that person will benefit me. I usually pray about it... most of the time I do. Try talking it over with a friend. Or find a hobby to help you get away from that. I used dance as that substitution.

hey there.. well how do i start?? see the thing is its never easy replacing a great love in your life.. never!! its now almost 6months and im still struggling, so now your problaby thinking..uhm well what the hell are you writing me for, well everybody has problaby told you 'his not worth your tears' or to just forget him, there is alot more fish in the sea, although thats true, but none of the other fish is him, right?? no matter what who says at the end of the day its you dating the guy, or in your case trying to forget the guy. i think what both of us should try is to keep our minds occupied with things that wont remind us of that person, because if you waste time on sulking you'll end up regreting everything you have been through together, and then end up either hating him or yourself, but dont! dont regret life, everything happens for a reason. and just something dont sulk your life over, because you might just miss the best thing ever... life goes on, keep all your memories but move on, all you've got to do is make that first step, believe me your noyt alone, you've got all your friends and family...