I found something on my boyfriend's computer

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Originally Posted By: DxLISHxISx_43I agree with Helmsman. Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts) I will probably end up talking about, however I won't voice my opinion as to what I think about it. I wouldn't try to make him feel bad about it, even if I am not a fan. We've been trying to work things out and they seem to be going better.

Get a grip.If you have reasonable suspicion thats one thing..However, I delete my internet files daily sometimes hourly. If you have a problem talk to him about it.I feel like I'm a pretty paranoid individual and I'm not that bad.

The view that partners should tell each other everything is not one I agree with. I think people should be allowed to have their own private spaces. If everything we did or thought were open to view, none of us would look good.

I'm done talking about the subject. What ever happens will happen. I don't expect him to tell me everything and I never have. I never brought it up to him and freaked out. I never said anything about it. I just posted here, so I don't need to get a grip. As I never "flipped" out about it. I have the right to feel how I wish to feel about furry animal porn. I think I have the right to be curious about why there was links to furry animal porn on my boyfriend's computer. I think any one would be curious. As far as the comment I made about him being up to something (meaning porn), well yes I do think he watches porn. I happen to think he's lying to me, I don't expect him not to watch it as all teen age boys seem to. I don't trust him when he says he doesn't. That doesn't mean I'm going to flip out about it, all I was trying to get across was I do think he's lying to me. I apologize if I came off as controlling or whatever else you people think I am. I just happen not to believe what he tells me about the subject.

I didnt really get what u meant until i checked out the "sexy fur" thing and its the weirdest fuckin thing ive ever seen. I dont see how that turns ANYONE on, its just wrong IMO.

Privacy, lol jk maybe he was just having fun with friends watching weird stuff, you should ask him why he was watching that

I agree. Originally Posted By: Megadeth90I didnt really get what u meant until i checked out the "sexy fur" thing and its the weirdest fuckin thing ive ever seen. I dont see how that turns ANYONE on, its just wrong IMO. Maybe what turns YOU on is "wrong" to others. All I'm saying is you need to understand people are different and not be so judgemental.

I'm a 19 year old male and I'm a virgin believe it or not.. and I do admit I check the porn sites time to time if I have a girlfriend I do not look at porn so long as I'm in a relationship.As to my saying "get a grip" from my point of view you sound pretty paraniod.

If you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend.

I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.

As for the files you found, two thoughts.
#1 - If you found them in his recent history, then I think it's wrong to assume he is hiding them from you. If you looked at the history for today on my laptop, you would find Best Buy. Doesn't mean I'm trying to hide the fact that I was looking at Best Buy.
#2 - I don't think it's wrong at all for you to be a bit weirded out by that furry porn stuff. It's kind of strange and different. And you're right - your reaction to it is what it is. You have a right to that. But it doesn't make your boyfriend a weirdo.

Originally Posted By: damienIf you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend. I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.I don't expect him to share everything with me as I already stated. If you read through everything you would also realize I don't search through his computer. It was an accident that I even found this and naturally I'm curious. I also have never read his journal, emails, or letters to any one else so give me a break. I do allow him to read my online journal, which is the only journal I have, because I don't see any reason to hide it. So give me a break. What I expect out of a relationship is what I expect, not what you and every one else on this forum happens to think is reasonable.

just trying to reinforce what Helmsman said here, but I really think its possible he wasn't looking at it from the porn perspective. I know that my friends and i are occasionally immature enough to look up really wierd or disgusting things, just so that we can send a link or picture to somebody, or try to gross out whoever our target is. My best friend and i went on my roommate's laptop once and replaced his background with an image of two elderly obese chinese ladies playing in diarrhea, for example. It took us a long time to find that particular image, and we had many similarly disturbing things in our history folder from the hunt.Point: I would give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he was being stupid or something, and assume that furry animal cartoon porn is not something that turns him on in any way. It could easily be that he heard of it somehow and was so surprised he just checked it out. Many of the people involved in this post have checked it out i'm sure, including you, just because they heard about it and hadn't encountered it before.

OK just wanna butt in here.

I found out about "furries" via the same way I bet 90% of other guys do.

One of my mates sent me an MSN message with a link saying "dude, check this crap out! what the hell is going on?!"

I bet you anything this is exactly what happened.

If your guy has mates who use their computers online, they'll send him links to weird crap.

Anyone whos heard of stileproject, goatse, tubgirl, hentai or anything similar will know EXACTLY what I mean.

I find the whole idea behind "furries" and "yiffing" to be hilarious. Doesn't mean I get turned on by it.

I might even actively look for it when bored, just for a laugh, cos face it - a fox with human genitals rubbing itself? It's classic comedy gold!

I would NEVER contemplate going through my partners computer historyIt is the electronic equivilent of going through their filing cabinet reading documentsThe same goes for looking at emails one anyone elses computerIt is no different than reading their personal lettersIf the nessecity is there, the relationship has more than its share of problems

yes but that doesnt apply here,shes said repeatedly that it was an accident finding it, as it was in the regular browser history its completely believable, and everyone jumping on her back for going through his computer when she didnt, probably isnt doing much good

"I just think that is really creepy, we have a very active sexual relationship. So I don't understand what's with the furry porn crap. It makes me wonder how unsatisfied exactly I make him."That's a big leap, most likely incorrect, that I think a lot of women tend to make.First, just because it's in his history doesn't mean he's into it. Second, even if he was tossing off to it that doesn't necessarily mean he's not satisfied with you. It means he's a guy, he saw something that got him horny, so he had a quick wank. Sex for guys doesn't always have to have the big emotional meaningful encumbrances that it seems to have to have for the ladies. All we need is a visual that gets us hot or a gentle breeze out the right direction, anything more is just gratis.

Originally Posted By: OldFolks>>>"I just think that is really creepy, we have a very active sexual relationship. So I don't understand what's with the furry porn crap. It makes me wonder how unsatisfied exactly I make him."That's a big leap, most likely incorrect, that I think a lot of women tend to make.First, just because it's in his history doesn't mean he's into it. Second, even if he was tossing off to it that doesn't necessarily mean he's not satisfied with you. It means he's a guy, he saw something that got him horny, so he had a quick wank. If you also go back and read I gave him the benefit of the doubt, which was his best friend and him were looking at it. They look at creepy things online and I hoped it was that situation. They look at porn together along with everything else on the web and one time they showed me a really fat woman shitting in a tub or something. So I mean stuff happens. However yes I did wonder if he was looking at it for sexual purposes. I can't help that the thought crossed my mind. I think it was a fairly natural reaction.

And I've done my best to explain that more than likely it doesn't mean anything and probably isn't worth the worry your putting into it. Especially in the extrapolation that he must be unsatisfied with you. I just think that's reading to much into it.

Originally Posted By: OldFolksAnd I've done my best to explain that more than likely it doesn't mean anything and probably isn't worth the worry your putting into it. Especially in the extrapolation that he must be unsatisfied with you. I just think that's reading to much into it. I know, I'm not even worried about it and haven't been for a while, I thought I made that clear. That was what ran through my mind in the beginning. However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it.

not to freak ya out or anything but one of my buddies showed me this website ((because it was funny)) and it was a damn forget... a fur dating website or something like that, its mostly gay men on there, and they have there pictures with there stuffed animals and have back stories on them... Some of them were even dressed up as the animals... and if you take interest in the person and his "animal" yous can hook up LOL.sorry. just such a coincidence that he shows me that the other day and then i read this.

Quote:However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it. If you weren't worrying about it, then why are you still curious as to why he was looking at it? For one thing, it seems kind of snoopy that you would go into his history and look for something without his permission. If you needed to know the name of something, you should have just asked him. Now, if you bring this up to him, you will have to face the fact that you violated his personal space and that you're questioning him about something that isn't a big deal. Most people don't go into the history to look up something they looked at previously. Most people, or at least me, would type in a keyword search using Google and look for a webpage there. Maybe that's just me...