I found something on my boyfriend's computer

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If you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend.

I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.

As for the files you found, two thoughts.
#1 - If you found them in his recent history, then I think it's wrong to assume he is hiding them from you. If you looked at the history for today on my laptop, you would find Best Buy. Doesn't mean I'm trying to hide the fact that I was looking at Best Buy.
#2 - I don't think it's wrong at all for you to be a bit weirded out by that furry porn stuff. It's kind of strange and different. And you're right - your reaction to it is what it is. You have a right to that. But it doesn't make your boyfriend a weirdo.

Originally Posted By: damienIf you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend. I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.I don't expect him to share everything with me as I already stated. If you read through everything you would also realize I don't search through his computer. It was an accident that I even found this and naturally I'm curious. I also have never read his journal, emails, or letters to any one else so give me a break. I do allow him to read my online journal, which is the only journal I have, because I don't see any reason to hide it. So give me a break. What I expect out of a relationship is what I expect, not what you and every one else on this forum happens to think is reasonable.

just trying to reinforce what Helmsman said here, but I really think its possible he wasn't looking at it from the porn perspective. I know that my friends and i are occasionally immature enough to look up really wierd or disgusting things, just so that we can send a link or picture to somebody, or try to gross out whoever our target is. My best friend and i went on my roommate's laptop once and replaced his background with an image of two elderly obese chinese ladies playing in diarrhea, for example. It took us a long time to find that particular image, and we had many similarly disturbing things in our history folder from the hunt.Point: I would give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he was being stupid or something, and assume that furry animal cartoon porn is not something that turns him on in any way. It could easily be that he heard of it somehow and was so surprised he just checked it out. Many of the people involved in this post have checked it out i'm sure, including you, just because they heard about it and hadn't encountered it before.

OK just wanna butt in here.

I found out about "furries" via the same way I bet 90% of other guys do.

One of my mates sent me an MSN message with a link saying "dude, check this crap out! what the hell is going on?!"

I bet you anything this is exactly what happened.

If your guy has mates who use their computers online, they'll send him links to weird crap.

Anyone whos heard of stileproject, goatse, tubgirl, hentai or anything similar will know EXACTLY what I mean.

I find the whole idea behind "furries" and "yiffing" to be hilarious. Doesn't mean I get turned on by it.

I might even actively look for it when bored, just for a laugh, cos face it - a fox with human genitals rubbing itself? It's classic comedy gold!

I would NEVER contemplate going through my partners computer historyIt is the electronic equivilent of going through their filing cabinet reading documentsThe same goes for looking at emails one anyone elses computerIt is no different than reading their personal lettersIf the nessecity is there, the relationship has more than its share of problems

yes but that doesnt apply here,shes said repeatedly that it was an accident finding it, as it was in the regular browser history its completely believable, and everyone jumping on her back for going through his computer when she didnt, probably isnt doing much good

"I just think that is really creepy, we have a very active sexual relationship. So I don't understand what's with the furry porn crap. It makes me wonder how unsatisfied exactly I make him."That's a big leap, most likely incorrect, that I think a lot of women tend to make.First, just because it's in his history doesn't mean he's into it. Second, even if he was tossing off to it that doesn't necessarily mean he's not satisfied with you. It means he's a guy, he saw something that got him horny, so he had a quick wank. Sex for guys doesn't always have to have the big emotional meaningful encumbrances that it seems to have to have for the ladies. All we need is a visual that gets us hot or a gentle breeze out the right direction, anything more is just gratis.

Originally Posted By: OldFolks>>>"I just think that is really creepy, we have a very active sexual relationship. So I don't understand what's with the furry porn crap. It makes me wonder how unsatisfied exactly I make him."That's a big leap, most likely incorrect, that I think a lot of women tend to make.First, just because it's in his history doesn't mean he's into it. Second, even if he was tossing off to it that doesn't necessarily mean he's not satisfied with you. It means he's a guy, he saw something that got him horny, so he had a quick wank. If you also go back and read I gave him the benefit of the doubt, which was his best friend and him were looking at it. They look at creepy things online and I hoped it was that situation. They look at porn together along with everything else on the web and one time they showed me a really fat woman shitting in a tub or something. So I mean stuff happens. However yes I did wonder if he was looking at it for sexual purposes. I can't help that the thought crossed my mind. I think it was a fairly natural reaction.

And I've done my best to explain that more than likely it doesn't mean anything and probably isn't worth the worry your putting into it. Especially in the extrapolation that he must be unsatisfied with you. I just think that's reading to much into it.

Originally Posted By: OldFolksAnd I've done my best to explain that more than likely it doesn't mean anything and probably isn't worth the worry your putting into it. Especially in the extrapolation that he must be unsatisfied with you. I just think that's reading to much into it. I know, I'm not even worried about it and haven't been for a while, I thought I made that clear. That was what ran through my mind in the beginning. However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it.

not to freak ya out or anything but one of my buddies showed me this website ((because it was funny)) and it was a damn forget... a fur dating website or something like that, its mostly gay men on there, and they have there pictures with there stuffed animals and have back stories on them... Some of them were even dressed up as the animals... and if you take interest in the person and his "animal" yous can hook up LOL.sorry. just such a coincidence that he shows me that the other day and then i read this.

Quote:However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it. If you weren't worrying about it, then why are you still curious as to why he was looking at it? For one thing, it seems kind of snoopy that you would go into his history and look for something without his permission. If you needed to know the name of something, you should have just asked him. Now, if you bring this up to him, you will have to face the fact that you violated his personal space and that you're questioning him about something that isn't a big deal. Most people don't go into the history to look up something they looked at previously. Most people, or at least me, would type in a keyword search using Google and look for a webpage there. Maybe that's just me...

i almost always look at history but its only really applicable when ive accidentally closed a page out otherwise i delete my history too but the times when i dont id rather go quickly with history, so its really not that farfetched that shed use that too

My child I ask you never go to 4chan under any circumstance.Unless god comes down from heaven and recruits you into the anon army never go there.Your boyfriend could visit there on a regular basis and you could have probably found worse then furries.

"However I'm still curious as to why he was looking at it."Curiosity, plain and simple, more than likely.I've looked at some sick shit on the internet and I am no way into it. You, or guys or at least this guy (me), looks at it cause it's there. It doesn't mean anything and most of the time the only thing going through my head is, "what the fuck are these people thinking", that and a good laugh.As a matter of fact, yesterday, after your post I spent the better half of a day learning all about furrys, yiffing, scritching, muck sites and second life shit. Doesn't mean I was into any of it, nor would I ever be. It just means I was curious and bored and didn't want to do the work I should have been doing.Look at it this way you have snap shot of evidence that has caused you to have suspicion but evidence without context is worthless. Calvin and Hobbs was probably before your time but in one cartoon strip Calvin, the little boy, got Hobbs, his tiger, to take pictures of him sitting on his bed in a clean room to show what a great kid he was, for posterity. He only cleaned the part of his room that was in the picture, the rest was filthy. When Hobbs questioned him about this his response was something to the effect of the picture trumping reality. It may be a stretch of what I'm saying but I think it demonstrates the point. You don't know the context of what was going on, for a one time find, without that there is really nothing to base any suspicion on.

I don’t think he’s dissatisfied with what you give him and what he gives you — I’d say it’d be the same if it was real porn, I mean, almost everyone has some Him liking drawings of anthro animals getting it on doesn’t make him like you any less, and doesn’t particularly make him a freak. And… with a web search it’s unfortunately way too easy to find the most ridiculous images from the fandom — which I doubt is, however, the majority.I know it’s shocking, but do try not to worry about it too much.It also has nothing at all to do with zoophilia. Most furries wouldn’t touch an animal that way in their lives.

Most of the shit thats fun is stupid, fighting is only one in a list of thousands.playing with fire, catching fish with your hands, explosives, fucking a fat girl adn riding a moped.Its all stupid, its also all fun. Dont single out fighting or Ill sue you for hurting my feelbads and making fun of me on the inter web.

Originally Posted By: Grvtykllr

Most of the shit thats fun is stupid, fighting is only one in a list of thousands.
playing with fire, catching fish with your hands, explosives, fucking a fat girl adn riding a moped.
Its all stupid, its also all fun. Dont single out fighting or Ill sue you for hurting my feelbads and making fun of me on the inter web.
Lol it's fun till your friends catcha doing it :grin:

Moonlight (lit?) You're curious as to why he was looking at it? Cat/Animals/Manimals + human bodies + pornography = older, more mature fart jokes. It probably appeals to his funny bone. The same thing that intrigues you as to why he was looking, is probably the same reason he looks or looked at it. Whether he got it from a friend, or was searching for anime or japanimation, it was just something he ran across. Here's an idea, next time you're on his computer check out that page, and have him look at it. Say your friend showed you, and wanted to show him or some other bullshit. I'll bet he'll talk about it openly with you then. Then you both can fuck the fat chick or ride he moped together.

This thread has turned into something completely ridiculous. If I was curious I can't help it. I've already talked it over with him, so it's done and over with. I don't need to explain myself to every one on this forum. Since apparently you all seem to think I invaded my boyfriends personal space etc etc. I think this thread needs to be closed. So if a moderator comes through I'd be glad if some one could close it, I'm done trying to defend myself when there is no reason to.