A turn of events

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Dude, you need to go out and do some things for yourself. To tell you the truth, I don't think you've lost her. She just needs some time for herself right now and you need to respect that. Live your life and concentrate on yourself. Fix yourself up, make yourself look good. Drink a lot of water everyday. Eat 3 healthy meals a day. Brush and floss after each meal. Go out and get yourself a haircut or something. Don't feel alone, because you're not.

I've lost her. It's for sure. When I said I was upset, she started getting angry saying that I had no right to be upset and stuff.I think if we were to get back together it would be awkward for the both of us. She actually really upset me with some of the things she said to me.My heart is broken - and at the moment there is nothing that can repair it.I have a problem that I can't enjoy myself any more. I went out tonight to a place where I'm usually really happy and active, but I ended up sitting down feeling sick. That never happens before.She's done something to me that I can't fix...and it hurts.

I've been there before friend. You're right that it can't be fixed, but it will heal. All it takes is time. You being upset is one of the last things she needed at that point because she needed to deal with her own problems. It may be a wise decision to e-mail her and tell her that you're not upset with her, even if you are. By doing so, you're being a good friend because then her focus is on herself and that's what she needs for right now.For now, take care of yourself. There is hope. Time heals. I know how you feel right now and you're going to feel like that for a little while. As time goes by, you'll feel different. I know it doesn't feel like that right now, but it will. Trust me.

What do you suggest I can do to help this along?I am on easter holidays at the moment and most of it I will have nothing to do. I'm stuck in a work crisis at the moment as I cannot work extra hours, and I may be forced to give up my job due to university constraints.Combining these two stresses together during time when I am doing nothing is an extremely bad thing. All my friends are working over this period, and doing things like going for walks etc has proven to be notoriously bad for me (usually resulting in me trying to harm myself).I'm open to all suggestions right now.

listen, when I was down in the dumps I just concentrated on living. I ate 3 times a day and cooked for myself. Made sure things were healthy. I drank a lot of water and just tried to help my body out some. I watched a lot of TV and things like that just to take my mind off of things. You just have to find your way of zoning out.

Maybe you were right websexinfoMy friend had a chat with her today and relayed some info back.Apparently she really does like me, but like she says, she needs some time. So maybe there is hope yet...but it's gonna be a fair while down the line.I guess now is just the case of finding that right balance.

I guess you've not quite read the whole thread Helms...Good for you though. I'm happy for you.

love as you describe existed between the two of you does not diminish so easily. She definitely needs time. Show her how much you love her by giving her that.

Well, another fun filled day. My friend went out with her today and found out the actual truth.She never loved me. She used me for a week to make her feel better about herself. She still loves her ex-bf who messed her around, and now that she's heard that he may be splitting with his gf, she's more interested in trying to get back with him.So again I've been totally f**ked over by another useless female.I don't know what to do with my life now. I've felt like this before and it led to very bad things (those of you who have followed my story will know what I mean).Now I hear her sister is interested with me I can't win in this stupid world.There is no way that I'm gonna try with a female now. At least not till I'm old and sad. It's too much like being stabbed. I wasted yet more of my life on something that was destined to fail.I give up.

I'm so sorry, sadbuttrue. You've had very bad luck. Not all girls are like that.

Taking a break sounds like a good idea. A worthy girl will come your way sooner or later. You won't be old when she comes around. It may be sooner than you think. But for right now, take a break and concentrate on yourself for a while. Hope everything works out for you. I've been in that hole before.

Hmm. I'm probably gonna get told off by you lot now I mentioned previously that her sister is interested me. Well she made a real effort to get in contact with me, and basically my ex has given her the all clear to go out with me, and so after much debating and talking, we have decided to give it a shot.This one does feel better, but I'm taking it slowly this time. I've learnt that jumping in at the deep end just causes problems. Just finished a 2 and a half hour phone call with her, which is the longest I've ever spent on the phone in my life, just talking about how things are.Like I say, we're essentially just really good friends at the moment, but we both know that we want it to blossom into something more, but we're both taking it slowly, so that it can develop more fully than if I did with my ex.So flame me if you want. I'm sure Amanda will have a few words to say!

Told off? Flamed?I say, congrats. And it's good that you're taking it slow. You're doin' a good job.It's funny, my ex's best friend is acting different toward me. I don't know, like flirty of something. I'm not going to act on it cuz I have someone. But it's just weird.

Thanks for the support! It's her day off today so we're gonna go hang out somewhere.

Congrats! Im happy for you too!!

Just a small status report.We're still together at the moment! just printing off some bus timetables...This is really awesome!

I really hope this one works out well for you.

Well last night was amazing.She ended up staying at my house, and er...some things happened!One thing didn't happen though, which is a good thing I think. Mini-me wasn't prepared to do his job, and that was due to nerves. She said I was shaking a lot But things are going well nonetheless!

You guys tried to have sex already? You're moving a little fast it seems.

A little fast?!!?I know, it's just the way things went. Really really heat of the moment. But it didnt happen anyway, probably because subconciously my mind was saying "whoa! hold up a second there big boy".At least I managed to please her anyway