Bullies...how to deal with them?

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Glad you find it funny, it seems my first impression of you was right all along.

First impressions generally are right, in very few instances from ym own life can I say I ever reversed one.

There is nothing on your list of "Angel's bad behavior" that warrants your asshole behavior toward her. You're just acting like an immature brat who can use grownup words on a message board cause you know your mommy won't find out.Please have some respect.

Get back on topic now you lot!

She posted some stupid stuff about her religion, "Wicca" she calls it lol. I thought it was pathetic and tried to help her. But she wouldn't listen to me... and took everything personally. All this is because of my religion??? stunned Its very apt that you post your bullshit in a thread titled Bullies.........

Hey there...

Well I was in your shoes before. Being smart and quiet doesn't seem to pay off in school, at least when it comes to the bullies anyways.

I learned that the more you remain quiet with these people and continue to take their crap the more they will bully you. That is what they feed on because they know they can get away with it.

Best advice is to stop taking it. Now I am not saying fight them, but talk back and stand up for yourself. Once they see you're not going to take their bullying they'll look for an easier target.

I know this is easier said than done. It took me awhile to work up the nerve to stand up for myself. Eventually you'll get to the breaking point and it'll happen. But once it happens, trust me things will get better. These same bullies will actually gain a "respect" for you so to speak and, in general, leave you alone. I am not saying there won't be an occasional pick at you, but it'll be nothing like you are experiencing today. Hell, by senior year I was rather popular and was prince of prom lol. It's amazing what standing up for yourself will do in the long run. Confidence really does pay off in the end. You just have to believe in yourself.

So basically, stand up for yourself and don't let yourself be bullied anymore. People are only bullied because they ALLOW themselves to be bullied.

It's nice to see the Old Unforgetto back... okay that was being sarcastic.It amazes me how you are so rude, so hateful to people on this site and yet you are still allowed to access these boards. You have no right to judge ANYONE'S parenting skills. You are NOT a parent so you have no idea what it's like to have to worry about them and take care of them.You don't have to like everyone on these forums but you should damn well have enough respect not to bash them every chance you get. You doing that adds nothing but ignorance and hate to this thread that was to help the boy who is getting bullied. Bashing her parental skills helped in no way.It comes down to being mature. If you want people here to take you seriously than grow up and stop taking every chance you get to make stabs at people. It does nothing but make you look bad and gives your advice zero credibility.

what i sugest is go to your head master, or mistress or principal or w/e and tell him, im having bully problems, and if you dont deal with them i will. and if he doesint do nothing, then either pay some bigger and badder bullies or kids that arent messing with you to whoop there butt or protect your, or if you think your up to it, whoop there but. u most possibly wont get into too much trouble, u can tell ur principal u warned him and he did nothing, which will be quite embaressing to him if there are other teachers there, which will most possibly put him in a bad predicament, which in turn will make your sentence most possibly short..but there is always a chance for suspension,oh and also if u are to fight them, dont just walk up to them and start whooping there backside, wait till the come up to you and either slap u or hit u or something. that way u can always say u were defending yourself.

pyro, are you still here?Sorry for the diversion.Are you in the U.S.? If so, what state? I will check and see if there is any anti-bullying legislation in your state. If there is, you've got a big thing called the gov'ment behind you.

Yeah, I wasn't able to get on yesterday.Really? Thanks Damien.I'm in the U.S., in Missouri.

Unfortunately (according to bullypolice.org) Missouri does not have anti-bullying legislation. However, I would bet that your school has anti-bullying policies in place. You should really (along with trying to stand up for yourself) report what is happening to a trusted teacher, a counselor, principal, or some other adult in the school. It is their obligation to protect you and to help you. If they refuse...we go to a plan B that they are not gonna like!

Atta boy Helms. Your a good man. Good luck Pyrtek. Best wishes that this gets taken care of.

You're thinking what I'm thinking Helms.This crap pisses me off and is one of the few things to get me riled up enough to bust out of my passive self and make some noise!

you guys have me so lost right now.

Dude honestly you dont know what its like to tell on some bullies. It will only make it worse for you trust me on that one, and anyone who said different is wrong.. unless you have the teacher watch you every two seconds then they will just make fun of you outside of school and get there friends to fuck with you also.

Umm I don't think that quite what they're talking about.

He was talkin about how you should go and tell an adult right away... so i said what imo is true.

Look, I'm going to say this one more time. I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!

Think I don't know what it's like to be bullied and have to deal with telling an adult? Wrong. I got it bad when I was a kid. It was a different day and age. It was before we knew that way to many kids were dead because of bullying that wasn't dealt with. I've been a victim of this before. I know way too much about it from that perspective.

I also know about from having done a butt-load of research on the subject of bullying. Just about every aspect you could think of: causes, prevention, long-term effects, who's more prone to be victim or bully or whatever. I pretty much know the ins and outs of the dealeo.

I also know about it from having been a therapist in a school and dealing with it on that level. I've taught classes in bully prevention, done presentations to faculty and staff, counselled both victims and bullies, had the opportunity to see what I discovered in research played out in real life, saw my own childhood expriences played out in the lives of others.

I'm not just some kid here posting on a message board about "what I think you should do". I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT. So who the crap are you to tell me I'm wrong on this? Do you have knowledge or experience beyond mine that makes you more qualified to speak to it than I am? If so, please offer it up and I'll apologize. Otherwise, please don't be counterproductive.

(Damn! Am I sounding like SteveA?)

0_oI think we might be going a little far with helping me out. I don't think any plan B is necessary.As of now, not much has been happening. But if it starts up again and gets really bad, I just may consider a Plan B.

Yah you kind of did sound like steve on that one lol. And i wasn't trying to affend you. Just explain to me how a kid can go and tell an adult what some idiot is doing to him with out being made fun of even more when the bullies find out he told on them.