How to finger a girl

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hey im gunna finger my girl (first time ive figered a girl) this weekend, and i think these responses are very helpfull

It's good A2A is able to help.

in american pie there was a handbook on how to finger/pleasure a girl.........

If you are going to finger a girl, make sure she is wet before you insert your fingers. Rubbing/licking her clitoris gently should do the trick. If she is not wet it's just really sore!

ya im a girl.. duhh and my boyfriend and i have talked about fingering.. ive never been fingered before so im a bit scared.. i dont know what to expect.. or if itll hurt.. or if it feels good or what.. so yeah if anyone can help me on this.. im kinda freaking out..

Welcome to A2A, blondieeee.I'm not a girl so I can't speak from personal experience, but my wife loves it when I finger her, so I'm sure it feels good. The first time will probably be a little awkward so just take it slowly. You'll quickly discover what you like and don't like. Communicate that with your bf. There's nothing to be afraid of.

thanks aloti guess im a bit scaredbut like its not something im necessarily scared to have doneif that makes any sense whatsoever

Hi I've just read this forum for the first time just now (great site btw) and I just wanted to say that if your gf is not wet and you want to rub around her clit it won't be sore if you wet your fingers with your own saliva. It's perfectly safe, makes it more comfortable for her to start with and will help to stimulate her own juices.Hope that helps some.

Well, it seems this subject has been covered pretty well, but I think I can add a little bit of info to this.Details are important, and actions leading up to fingering are key. I usually start off by talking, then holding each other, then small kissing with talking and eventually making out. You want to excite her in different ways. Begin to explore erogenous zones. Kiss her neck, collar bone, hot breath in her ear followed by a nibble on her earlobe, that type of thing. Excite her body, slowly moving down. Play with her inner thighs on each leg. I like to do a "feather touch" starting from her knee moving straight her vaginal lips, but I don't touch THE area. Tease her. You're in the power position right now, enjoy it. lol.Now that you have her excited and anticipating more more more, it's time to move on to fingering. There are several ways you can approach this. If you're looking to just finger her and not get your mouth into the mix, you can start off my teasing her by doing a light touch nascar type circle around her vaginal lips. Then, light brush her lips up and down with your middle and pointer fingers. Right now, you're key goal is to strike lubrication. Massage your two fingers into her lips until you find a nice wet spot. Once you find it, wet the tips of your fingers, but do not penetrate. Rub the lubrication onto the lips, then go for more lubrication, and then repeat. Soon, your fingers should be moist enough to lightly tease the clit. Do this lightly and make sure the tips of your fingers are very lubricated. A dry finger on a dry clit can hurt. Play with the clit seconds at a time and them move your fingers up and down her lips. After a few rounds, you can begin to insert your middle finger into her. Do this slowly and don't be afraid to back out a little and go back in upon initial insertion. You want to find her G-spot. Every girl is different, but it's generally located between 1 and 4 inches in. It's easiest to just ask her, "does that feel good baby?" "how about this?" and communicate with her verbally. Or, you just just read her face. Press onto her inner wall at certain points and observe her reactions. I think someone said it in this thread before, but you can sit in front of her, palm up, and with your finger do a come hither motion and you'll strike gold somewhere along the line. . . . . I could go on and on really, but the fun is finding out about things yourself... but here's some tips.Keep your finger nails well groomed and concentrate on keeping your finger nails aways from the walls of her vagina.Think of it as a massage. You can be gentle and you can be firm. Don't stick to a rhythm too long. Switch up areas you massage. If she's getting close to orgasm and you want to concentrate on her g-spot, get firm (rub harder / deeper) and massage deep, but don't continuously massage it, back off of it for a second or two and then go back to it. Some girls like it grinded in there continuously, but I have found that unrythemic is the best way to approach.For partners who know a thing or two, once you're pretty intimate with your girl, when she's begging for your "equipment", get her to finger herself and watch her, then insert one finger behind hers and you'll get a great idea of what she likes...

Wow, Man you are a good describer. SO there the basic rules ay. I think you covered it good and i will keep al lthat info in mind for when it is my time.

Yep, those are the basics. I may have missed a couple points here and there, but I'm sure you'll fill them in just fine.Another tip. Even if it's your first time and your nervous, become an actor. Pretend like your super confident and you know what you're doing. Even if you've already told your girl, "I've never done this before" your attitude and body language will definitely tell a different story. If you seem relaxed and confident, then she'll be relaxed and more comfortable. A lot of people know what to do in the bedroom as far as "rub here, push there, do this, do that". But to become really great, you must be attentive and dedicate yourself... even if it means acting and being a good social engineer.

I allways start out fingering her clit with lots of Astroglide untill she orgasms ( I am really horny and hard by this time!)then I insert my penis for my orgasm and she usually orgasm again as well.....

hey i need ur help im kinda young like 15 but that dont matter me and this girl we like never see eachother cuz her dad hates me and we only can see eachotehr when me and my best friend hand out and when she goes to his house cuz her best friend is going out with my best friend. we just started going out like 2 days ago but we loved eachotehr for like a year i just for the first time felt her up shes trying to become un prood and im seeing her next weekend probaly at the movies or at my friends house again we will be able to be away from them for like 15 min but not long and she has never been fingered before and i have never done it myself and people say get it wet but like i wont be able to take her clothes off and stuff before that any sugestions
please help me!!! :confused:

i need ur help im only 15 and my girlfriend has never done it or me neither and people say get it wet but she whouldn't let me lick it or stuff so im kinda nervus please respond back im in love with this girl thanks a bunch

I suggest you read what you've just replied to.

If you finger a girl do you have to worry about her hymen breaking, and if so is there a lot of blood?

Generally, the hymen is broken before a girl gets into fingering. I wouldn't worry about it.

well this site was a great help to me
my boyfriends done it to me a few times since my post
theres really nothing to be scared of at all
he communicated with me
so that was really good

allright yeah so, im going ot my girlfreinds house soon, and i kinda want to finger her, sept i dunno what to do.. like while were making out or whatever, i dont know how to excel up to fingering her. i mean i dont just put my hands down her pants outta nowhere. i wanna make it smooth. haha, yeah so what do i do??? thanks yall!

just incase its not though, how much would a girl bleed? cause im not sure if mines broken and ive been told it could be..but i dont want to get blood on my clothes incase its not