Cutting

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does anyone here besides me find comfort in cutting?

do not associate Gothic music ect with cutting lol. Its just the person, I dont know anyone that cuts [ other then myself, but ive been trying to stop ]. I happen to like The used, and many other 'emo' bands ( not korn and metal ect, but like taking back sunday, away from here, senses fail ). Their isnt a ritual that I know of? Maybe everyone is different..I cant even remember how i started but i dont tell anyone, and where i cut noone sees so Its not like i try to show them off.

I think I mentioned this before but I'm not sure.There is an old expression...Woman 1 "how to you forget how much your shoes are pinching your feet?"Woman 2 "Easy, just think of how much your earings are pinching your ears."Sometimes, the simple pain of cutting flesh will distract you from the complex pain of emotional trauma. If you don't cut, you may never understand. It is a bit complicated and very difficult to explain. I've got scars that I will have forever. They serve to remind me of where I was at the time and also to never travel down that emotional road again.There's a small irony there too. I wear my heart on my sleeve. When you remove the sleeves, the shirt, the pants, it's still there; on my arms, accross my chest, along my legs.

yeah i did it afew times when i was younger.its the whole you can control it...hurt yourself there so you dont think about where the pain really is.sometimes its not cutting, just hurting yourself somehow

im glad owl you asked these questions,ill try to answer them,it has nothing to do with goth at all,im not goth,im more emo,goth cut them selves for show,emo kids cut themselves to get rid of pain.if youve never cut yourself then you cant understand.its when were very emotionally hurt,by parents or friends, we take something sharp,usually a blade or a knife.and cut ourselves on our arms,ive done it about 25 times,usually small scars,but once i gashed my arm open and i had to lie to my mom about it,yes it focuses the pain on your arm and numds out the heartache,also the adrinilin rush is like a comfort and you get in a stupifcial feeling,i usually do it in silence,and its very spiritual for me,being more or less a christian,i do like music like The Used,Underoath,Dead Poetic,Emery, Hawthorne Heights, Silverstein anything emo/srceamo.

if you tried it you would understand

Cutting is fun...been doing it for a while now...

learn2hate registered, giving us a valid email address, just to say a crap joke that probably offended a lot of people. Wow, that isn't stupid.

i find it fun cos i like to see myself bleed and im fucked up in the head

cutting isnt about your popularity or the music you're into. it is done by 1 in 10 people, in my school way more. i cut because its the only time i feel in control. it makes me feel calm. its also good anger management, you wait all day until you can go home to the penknife.i used to not understand. a few years ago a friend told me that she cut and i didnt understand, i thought it was being weak and pathetic. she said you had to be one to understand and she was right. i started because i felt like there was nothing else i could do, its often an outlet for depression.now i cant stop though. you said that it is like taking drugs and you were actually right. cutting is addictive. it hurts but it sets of the same chemical in the brain as heroin does, therefore its like taking drugs.i do have a lot of friends who cut but it isnt a show and tell thing. its something you do in private, you probably know loads of people who do and you dont even know.                   

well said above^ but im not addictive,it is very calming! and i do it occasionally

Anyone notice that do it out of habit or start doing it without noticing that their about to? I end up doing this a lot in cutting and the other forms of mutilation. I was just wondering if anyone else did too.

I never did it as an adult. Only as a teen. I grew up in a very understanding, if you will, household. Yet, because of that understanding, my Dad knew every move that was comming around the corner...basically because of the "challenge" I threw him a curve ball. At that point, there was nothing he could do or say. I actually had "Some control" over my future...something that couldn't be forseen, and something Dad actually didn't know how to deal with. As soon as I was on my own though it stopped. Not like an addicting sort of thing, just proof that Dad didn't know EVERYTHING...

Hey, 2 things...well atleast thats how its starting lol. First, people who don't cut can understand, trust me, I do... I can feel what it would feel like, i can actually feel it all happening, i just choose not to...and hope to keep that up for atleast awhile... 2nd, I just found out that my girlfriend just started, i was wondering if anyone could PM me w/advice on how to help her to stop...keep in mind she hasn't told me yet (she wants to but can't figure out how to tell me..a friend who is addicted to cutting told me) Please, any help will...well...help.

Cutting is bad and it leaves reminders (scars) that I'm afraid leave traces of negative emotion that can spark or trigger a sensation in an instant. This happens in anything that gives a important memory and undoubtedly scars like that will. I cannot stress how important it is not to cut. DO NOT DO IT!

In reply to: it leaves reminders (scars) that I'm afraid leave traces of negative emotion it's hard to see where you're going if you can't see where you've been. I'm not saying "go for it" but I'll never critisize a fellow cutter.I've been asked if I had some kind of bone surgery on my legs, the lateral scars are that bad. But, they are like a street sign saying "one way", forward only.The reminders aren't all bad

Maybe that came out a little wrong. I guess it's open for interpretation, as it seems to work either way for a person. For me, scars remind me of negative memories/emotions because their origin is almost definitely negative, but like I said, all depends on how you look at them.

absoluetly true

i started a little while ago myself, and i have a friend who did it for a while when she was really depressed. the only advice i can give is tell you what my friend did for me when she found out i started. basically, dont judge and dont make any comments like 'thats so stupid' or 'you have to stop'. its important you are there for her and maybe try and find out why she does it. dont do anything like take away sharp objects or force her to promise she will stop, it wont help - just make her feel guilty. just be supportive and understanding. thats all you can do.

I used to do it, but I think it was more for the attention. Although I didn't go parading around school showing everyone and comparing it to other scars, I would sometimes use it as an excuse to show how depressed I "really" was, whenever I'd "vent" to people. I don't get depressed much nowadays, but even if I were feeling way down, I don't think I'd cut. It's stupid to me.